Am I German or Autistic?

Someone says, "We should get coffee sometime." You reach for your calendar. Apparently, that was your first mistake.

Human communication would be much easier if words simply meant what they appeared to mean.

Unfortunately, there is also tone, timing, body language, sarcasm, implication, politeness, hints, facial expressions, and an impressive collection of social rules nobody remembers agreeing to.

Am I German or Autistic? is Lucas Weiss's witty exploration of German directness, autistic communication experiences, social skills, small talk, and the misunderstandings that happen when different communication styles collide.

Why can honesty sound rude?

Why does "fine" so often mean something other than fine?

Why ask for an honest opinion if there is apparently a wrong answer?

And why does everyone keep telling us to read the room when the room refuses to provide written instructions?

Inside, discover a fresh look at:

• Direct and indirect communication
• Small talk and why people use it
• Literal language, sarcasm, and hidden meanings
• Social rules nobody formally teaches
• Group conversations and body language
• Text messages, emails, and missing context
• Cultural differences in communication
• Autistic masking and learned social scripts

This book does not claim that German directness equals autism. Instead, it explores what happens when communication preferences, cultural habits, personality, and neurodivergence occasionally produce surprisingly familiar situations.

Sometimes better communication begins with admitting that we are not all using the same rulebook.